As a new mom, you're constantly bombarded with comments like "You look great!" and "You're back to your old self!" But the truth is, you don't feel like yourself yet. The mirror reflects a body that's foreign, with loose skin and new stretch marks that seem to appear out of nowhere. The pressure to "get back in shape" and "eat clean" feels suffocating, like just another item on your never-ending to-do list.
Research shows that the postpartum period is a vulnerable time for body image concerns, with up to 80% of new mothers experiencing negative body image (1).
The constant scrutiny and comparison to pre-pregnancy bodies can lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem. But where does this pressure come from?
Societal expectations, social media, and even healthcare providers can contribute to the pressure to "bounce back" quickly. A study published in the Journal of Women's Health found that healthcare providers often prioritize weight loss and physical appearance over emotional well-being and self-care (2). No wonder we're our own harshest critics!
It's essential to acknowledge that healing takes time, and kindness is crucial. Our bodies have undergone a miraculous transformation, and it's okay to not feel like ourselves yet. The Fourth Haus community is here to support you in this journey, to remind you that you're not alone.
So, how can we cultivate patience and kindness towards our bodies? Start by:
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Practicing self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness you'd offer to a friend.
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Setting realistic goals: Focus on progress, not perfection.
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Embracing your new body: Celebrate its strength and resilience.
But what does this look like in everyday life? It means allowing yourself to rest when you need to, rather than pushing through exhaustion. It means nourishing your body with whole foods, rather than restricting yourself with fad diets. It means embracing your new shape, rather than trying to conform to societal standards.
Your journey is unique, and it's okay to take your time. Share your story with us – what has your postpartum journey looked like? How have you found kindness and patience in the midst of pressure?
Remember, you will see yourself again. Not the old you, but a new, stronger, wiser version. One that has been transformed by motherhood, and is still unfolding.
References:
(1) Sluijs, A. M., & Dekker, G. A. (2017). The effects of pregnancy and childbirth on the female body. Journal of Women's Health, 26(10), 1043–1052.
(2) Rubin, L. R., & Stein, T. A. (2018). "Bouncing back" after childbirth: A critical examination of the discourse of postpartum body image. Journal of Women's Health, 27(10), 1231–1238.